Are my feelings normal?

While every victim reacts in his/her own way, there are some emotions that are very common. Here are some of the emotions you may experience at some point in your recovery process. Sometimes it even takes a little while to even be able to feel.

  • Fear
  • Sadness
  • Grief
  • Rage towards your rapist
  • Anger/lashing out at family/friends
  • Blaming yourself
  • Loneliness, isolation, feeling like no one understands or cares
  • Frustration with self and/or with the world
  • Exhaustion
  • Hopelessness
  • Powerlessness
  • Alertness
  • Panic
  • Depression
  • Loss of trust
  • Guilt
  • Hatred of self, world, family/friends, rapist
  • Low self-esteem
  • No longer trust own judgment
  • Numbness
  • Confusion

Other victims react very differently and have feelings such as:

  • Emotional numbness
  • Feeling fine
  • Feeling loved and supported by friends
  • Strong, healed, empowered

What may be even more confusing is that any and all of these feelings can come and go. So even once you deal with a particular feeling and think you’ve got it mastered, it may return later. This is normal — the healing process is dynamic and very personal.

Whatever you are feeling, don’t worry that it isn’t normal; there are always other people who have gone through the same things.  The best thing you can do is to keep trying.  Maybe talking with someone that knows how you are feeling will help you.


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